When it came to the bedroom, I found myself looking for strong, alpha male types where I could fully release this powerful persona and release fully into the moment. In many traditions, including tantra, the masculine is the container, the structure, and creates the space of trust. When the feminine can fully trust this container and the safety of this relationship, she is free to relax, settle, and come into the flow of the feminine. The feminine is able to move out of the masculine energy and release the need to provide that sense of safety and security for self. Bondage creates this dynamic, and the power exchange possible in fully releasing the need to be in control, and embrace what’s possible when we can simply exist.